Being A Female In A Male Industry

22 Aug

After picking up my winning lots that I won in an auction on Friday it got me to thinking about something. The business that I am in is a very male dominated industry. I am not sure if it is because it requires you to be more assertive or if the haggling aspect intimidates women. Lucky for me I tend to think more like a man so it doesn’t really phase me.

Tom worked Friday so I had to go pick up my lots with the kids which I normally try not to do. It’s not dangerous or anything, it’s just a pain. It wasn’t a huge deal because I was only picking up a few small items. I took the kids inside to pay as I normally do. The office is filled with women who do the reception types of duties, the men are the ones dealing with the actual auction work.

I pulled around back fully prepared to take the kids into the warehouse and get my items, but one of the workers came right up to the car and offered to go get my items for me. That doesn’t happen when Tom goes anywhere. I thought it was maybe because I had the kids, but there was a guy there with three kids and he was getting far more than I was. Not that I was complaining about getting help, but I didn’t want special treatment.

Some women definitely take advantage of the fact that they are women in male dominated industries. It’s easy. When I do it I just feel like I am cheating myself. I can do all of the work that men do to improve their businesses. I don’t feel like I need to bat my eyelashes when I’m haggling the price of an item to do a good job.

So, the question I was asking myself is, is using my “charming” female attributes cheating the system, or is is using my abilities as a salesperson? Anyone in sales needs to rely on a bit of charisma to get customers to like them and trust them. And if I am being charming I don’t really know how to turn it off. I feel like I am equally polite to males as I am males. I was raised that way. Should it be my problem if males take a smile and a “thank you” as flirting when that is, by no means, my intention?

I want to be treated as a business person. I don’t want my gender to be a factor in the way the men in my industry view me.

2 Responses to “Being A Female In A Male Industry”

  1. appletonavenue August 22, 2012 at 10:41 am #

    When it comes to men, there’s no taking gender out of it. Until they get to know you, you are female first, charming salesperson second. It’s a law or something.

  2. robert4love August 22, 2012 at 7:46 pm #

    Just be You because if you do get all the sales they gonna say its because you’re a woman, if you don’t do good then its because you’re woman too. so no matter what you do people won’t give you just credit on your hard work neither way. so shine & be you!!

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